At Higher Self Psychotherapy, we know you don't have time to talk in circles. You've probably already done the talking — years of it, maybe. You understand your patterns. You can trace them back to their roots. You've read the books, done the journaling, maybe even the therapy. And still: the anxiety before performance reviews. The spiral after critical feedback. The way you can feel completely confident in a meeting and completely hollow on the drive home. The nagging sense

You know the voice. The one that pipes up right before a big presentation and whispers: you're not ready. The one that replays that email you sent at 3am, word by word, cataloguing every way you could have said it better. The one that looks at your accomplishments and immediately says: yes, but. Most of us relate to our inner critic as an enemy — something to silence, override, or white-knuckle our way past. We practice affirmations. We try to "think positive." We argue with

Understanding Trauma Beyond Words Integrating Many people begin therapy hoping that naming what happened and understanding why it happened will bring relief. And often, insight does help. But with trauma, it is common to “know” you are safe now and still feel on edge, shut down, ashamed, reactive, or disconnected. This isn’t a failure of willpower; it’s a sign your nervous system learned protective strategies during a time of threat, and it may still be operating by those rul

How to Stop Overthinking Without Fighting Yourself If you want to know how to stop overthinking , the paradox is this: You don’t stop it by trying to stop it. You stop it by helping the part of you that’s afraid feel supported. For high-achieving women, overthinking is rarely about indecision. It’s about a protective part that believes staying vigilant is the only way to stay safe. This is why insight alone doesn’t bring relief. What does help is offering that part something

High-achieving women often look put-together from the outside — reliable, capable, intuitive, and driven. Yet behind that impressive exterior, many quietly carry anxiety that feels disproportionate to what’s actually happening in their lives. If you’re someone who triple-checks your work, overthinks conversations, or feels a pressure in your chest that never fully lets up… you’re not alone, and there’s a reason for it. In this post, we’ll explore why so many high-achieving wo

We’ve all had those moments when our gut says “don’t do it” —but we’re not sure if that’s wisdom speaking or fear disguised as...